Hello and Welcome!
I am so happy you are here! I thought I would take a few minutes and share with you my own personal story of my midlife awakening and transformation journey. I think it’s a great way for me to let you know that I truly and sincerely understand how you are feeling. My hope is that when you are finished reading my story, something will resonate with you in some way and provide you with a sense of comfort in knowing you are not alone.
This is the story of my midlife awakening and transformation.
For 18 years I was a stay at home mom. It was a wonderful experience and I am so grateful that I was lucky enough to have been given the opportunity to stay home and raise my 3 children.
Fast forward to the summer of 2014. I am 45 years and my children are now 17, 15, 12. My oldest son has begun his Senior year of High School and is preparing to go away to college. The realization that my first-born child was preparing to leave the nest was not easy for me to accept.
For a while I was ok, I was managing my fluctuating emotions. But it wasn’t until he actually left that I can say things took a turn for the worse. I fell into a very deep depression and began to experience extreme anxiety.
I had no idea what was wrong with me…I was so deeply sad and felt the hugest void inside. I felt completely hollow…empty.
The best way I can describe it to you is that I felt like someone died. I know how dramatic, even morbid that sounds, but that was exactly how I felt; like I was grieving a loss.
As it turns out, I found out later on that I was grieving a loss, but it was not the loss of my son leaving home…it was the loss of the woman I had been for the past 18 years.
You see, my “full-time” job title for the past, almost 2 decades was stay at home mom. One day I woke up and I realized that position no longer needed to be filled.
I was being demoted to “part-time” mom!
I didn’t know what to do with myself. I felt as though I had no purpose in life. I had no direction, I felt completely lost and alone. And I never saw it coming, I was completely blindsided.
In addition to the depression and anxiety, I was filled with overwhelming feelings of self-doubt and insecurity. I began to question things like the choices, decisions, and mistakes I had made. I began to second guess everything.
No matter how hard I tried, who I talked to or what website I landed on, I could not find the peace of mind I so desperately needed. I needed to know that I wasn’t alone and that I was going to be ok.
After a year and a half of feeling miserable, trying to find some answers, I succumbed to the fact that it was time to seek professional help.
The next 2 years were hard, I won’t lie. I did a lot of soul searching and inner work and I finally got the answer to what was making me feel this way. I learned that my son leaving for college triggered my midlife awakening.
Even though I went through some tough times, it eventually became clear to me that my awakening wasn’t a negative thing but a positive one. It provided me the opportunity to discover the obstacles, challenges and blockages that stood before me as a result of unhealed wounds and unresolved issues from my past. I began to understand that I needed to embrace my fears and work through my challenges. Once I did that, I could let go of everything that had been holding me back. I slowly began to transform into the best version of myself I could possibly be! I was now able to live and create a life I love!
Once I understood my awakening, my true transformation began.
I began to surround myself with as much positivity, encouragement and inspiration as I could. I dove into anything that had to do with personal growth, self-healing and I explored my spirituality.
I created a morning routine, practiced healthy daily habits, I exercised more and become more mindful of what I was putting in my body.
I followed social media accounts that focused on midlife and were filled with love, positivity, spirituality and inspiration. Through these outlets, I found other women who were having similar experiences and finally received the support and reassurance I needed all along…I am NOT the only woman who is feeling this way!! I was NOT alone!
Doing these things helped me shed layers and made me aware of what was no longer serving me and allowed me to let go. I walked away from toxic people, relationships and released the false self-limiting beliefs that were holding me back from becoming my true authentic self.
I gained a renewed sense of self confidence, self-esteem and self-worth!
This experience is what brought to light my true purpose in life which is to help others. It has become my passion to help support women like you to understand and accept your own midlife awakening and experience your own midlife transformation. I realized the best way for me to fulfill this passion was to become a life coach. I decided to become a life coach who specializes in midlife women’s issues.
In addition to being a Holistic Midlife Coach, I have a B.A. in Early Elementary Education, Special Education and an M.A. in Literacy. I am a trained drug and alcohol counselor, certified Recovery Coach, certified Mindfulness Coach and a certified Transformation Coach.
Using the knowledge and skills I learned through my personal experiences, education and life coaching courses I have created 2 coaching programs: “The Eye Opener Program” and the “Holistic Midlife Awakening Program”.
These programs are tailored to suit your needs and are aimed at helping you reach your goals. Together we will create a personalized life map for you to follow that will help identify those obstacles and challenges that have been holding you back. You will clear the mental clutter and find the clarity you have been seeking. In the end you will have a renewed sense of passion and purpose so that you can discover happiness, inner peace and create a life you will love!
Click here to learn more about the Holistic Midlife Transformation Programs I offer.
Thank you so much for reading my story. I really hope some of what I shared resonated with you and you found it inspiring and reassuring. Remember, you are not alone. ?
I would love to hear from you so please don’t hesitate to reach out if you have any questions.
Wishing you peace, love and positive vibes.
Xoxo- Doreen ❣